Category Archives: Stalking

Opt Out from Behavioral Online Advertising with tools

Interest and online behavior advertising inundates us daily when websites use your browsing history to predict what ads you should see. Luckily, there are some free tools with participating advertisers that allow you to opt out. The advertisers in question dig into your life, peeking into your browser cookies so they can tell where you recently visited and what may entice you into clicking more ads.

The Digital Alliance Advertising Consumer Choice page allows you to view over 125 participating advertising companies and have a simple tool to help you opt out. I personally have visited this page more than once because this tool needs to be used on every computer you use to browse the Internet.  I also make sure to visit the Your Online Choices page that offers similar services but different companies appear. Depending on your browsing habits you may need to visit both.

Digital Alliance Advertising Consumer Choice - You can view the entire list of participating companies, see what companies have current ads customized based on your behavior and see what you have opted out from already. Use the Select All checkbox to make it even quicker to opt out.

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Your Online Choices - this service is a bit harder to scroll through the long list, with no select all. It does offer you the ability to quickly toggle on/off each advertiser, including those that are not reporting correctly.  It was interesting to see the variance of companies found on each page.

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I suggest you bookmark this page as I update tools or bookmark those sites themselves.  I was shocked the first time I visited to see the number of companies in the alliance that are not affiliated but share data access in the cookies for advertising.  Some would say you could also exclusively use Private Browsing services that every major browser now offers. However, it is not the default action of Internet browsers and you must actively switch to private tabs and sessions.

Leave other tools and sites in the comments below.  I am guessing many will say to turn off all cookies or use add on tools, but those can block cookies you use for other preferences or slow your browser down.  Either way you need to take prevention steps.

Instagram adds post notifications to help you stalk better

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Instagram has added a new feature in their current release called Post notifications that allows you to get notified the moment someone posts a new photo.  You can think of this much like following someone with an added bonus.  Instead of them just appearing in your regular feed (or you having to manually visit their profile) you instantly know when a new picture was uploaded.

Instagram Post Notifications

To access this new feature you go to the persons profile you are wanting to be notified about.  Click the three dots in the upper right corner and the above menu will appear.  From there simply turn on post notifications. You will then get a separate prompt from mentions of your name, and comments or likes on your pictures letting you know they have a new photo to view.  Of course normal block and privacy rules apply.

So does this really mean more stalking? It does remove the need for someone to constantly refresh your page or profile. Mainly if you are public. Understandably a person would block someone they did not want following them. But how do you know someone is not trying to suddenly show up at places you are. It is all about posting smart and controlling what and when you share something.

Social media rules in parenting plans during divorces?

Social Media RulesA recent stream of articles and paid advertisements from attorneys are pushing you to include social media rules into parenting plans during divorces. This is different than how social media is often being used in court to show someone in negative light or even as a forced means of communication (Skype).

That idea of managing a child’s online footprint is becoming part of the conversations during a divorce and even after custody settlements as social networks become nearly ubiquitous ways of sharing information about one’s life and family.

The above quote is from StlToday in Dec 2012.

Most couples will have one or both sides that maintain multiple social network profiles, mainly Facebook of their own.  It seems that one side of the divorce is now asking that the other not be allowed to post pictures of the kids legally through the final parenting plans.

Social Identity in Three Layers interview with Pelpina Trip

Social Identity in Three Layers interview with Pelpina Trip

I had the opportunity to be interviewed while at SxSW 2012 in Austin, TX  by my friend Pelpina Trip.  She is the host of WebWatching and published through FrankWatching, a large Netherlands based website portal.

I define the three layers for a social identity in this brief introduction to what will soon be a published book on social identity layers and steps to start creating your own layers now.  Including fake personas for security verifications on sites.

The video has taken off.  Much thanks to Pelpina, the film crew and FrankWatching.